UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: THE FINEST HOURS, NOT JUST A CAPE COD STORY

The Coast Guard often receives attention for their daring rescues, even when they have mishaps such as: Coast Guard boat capsizes (Queens, New York).

CG-36500, the  36 foot, wooden lifeboat featured in the movie "The Finest Hours," didn't capsize. Its captain, Bernie Webber, and three crewmen weathered 40 to 60 foot waves to reach the SS Pendleton and save 32 men from the split tanker during a nor'easter. Why, then, has the film made only 37 million dollars so far? Marketing!

To encapsulate my review, "The Finest Hours" delivers as a remarkable adventure with suspense and moving performances; a wonderful yarn few have seen.

The initial trailer essentially had "tanked" the movie. Only when the second trailer was introduced, emphasizing the action, did the film gain momentum, though too late. The remarkable story had every opportunity to grab potential moviegoer's hearts and at least break even, but it did not.

Knitpicking about the waves being too high (huh?!) as one uninformed critic noted or the film too long (I agree) shouldn't have stopped moviegoers from seeing "The Finest Hours." No, Disney sabotaged the movie from the start by initially deciding to release it in December 2015. What?! We, those of us who follow film, gasped knowing that "Star Wars: The Force Awakens" would open that month. Realizing their error, the producers moved "The Finest Hours'" release date to January 29, 2016. What I call the" winter doldrums" of movie-going.

Wisened trend-followers would assume that Disney didn't expect the movie to do well; therefore, the producers selected a period after the excitement of  "Star Wars: The Force Awakens" had lessened. Also, they marketed the film to attract an older generation instead of seeing a universal story that would capture worldwide attention. In fact, "The Finest Hours" featured mostly younger actors unknown to many baby-boomers, with the possible exception of Chris Pine and Casey Affleck.

Spike Lee, on CBS This Morning, noted how producers would make much more money if they marketed (and made) movies which appeal to wider audiences. "The Finest Hours'" cast reflects the real crew of the USS Pendleton, multicultural sans women. Women do have important roles in the story, however. We live in a global community. It's time that the studios get their "heads" out of the sand and join the real world.

http://movies.disney.com/the-finest-hours

MISSING PIECE: Cautionary Message for Parents about HPV

Growing up, my mother taught me about the bonds between a man and a woman, what to look for in a man, and how my father changed her life--Mom, the ultimate romantic. Dad told me about sex. He never shied from discussing the "bare essentials," and I listened. "Use protection." "If you feel uncomfortable, leave." "Your health more important than taking chances." We discussed the how, what, when, where and why.

I learned more from friends, books and watching movies. However, experience taught me to wait vs. acting on impulse. What did that mean? I'll refrain from sharing intimate details, but I will say that if I saw holes in a potential relationship, I sabotaged any chance for a future or I scrammed.

Then, there were the times when I wouldn't let go, believing I'd found love though one-sided. Still, like pushing a fast-forward button, I'd leave, quickly. Only later in life, much later, did I find true love. Mom would be proud. Dad, delighted with one exception: that as an educated woman I didn't keep up with the latest warnings about STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections, formerly STDs), in particular HPV. I heeded my father's, friends' and colleague's cautionary words about all the other STIs. Therefore, I waited until my partners and I were in close relationships and were tested.

When diagnosed with HPV last year, I shook my head and truly believed that as with most other women the virus would disappear in two years, as my gynecologist assured me.

And, forty years ago, we didn't have vaccines to prevent HPV. Today, we do but only for young women, and yet:

     HPV is the most common sexually transmitted infection (STI). HPV is a different virus than HIV and HSV (herpes). HPV is so common that nearly all sexually active men and women get it at some point in their lives. There are many different types of HPV. Some types can cause health problems including genital warts and cancers. Anyone who is sexually active can get HPV, even if you have had sex with only one person. You also can develop symptoms years after you have sex with someone who is infected making it hard to know when you first became infected. (CDC)

The CDC goes on to explain how even using a condom or even being in a monogamous relationship may not stop a woman from getting HPV. So, what should we do? For your daughter, get her vaccinated:

HPV vaccines are safe and effective. They can protect males and females against diseases (including cancers) caused by HPV when given in the recommended age groups...HPV vaccines are given in three shots over six months; it is important to get all three doses. (CDC)

Unfortunately, the vaccine is only recommended for pre-teens 11-12 to age 26 (for some groups). Screenings for HPV should begin, for women, only after age 30. So, "free love" addicts have their hands full. I'm not advocating celibacy or living in fear. The statistics for getting HPV, nonetheless, are staggering: 

About 79 million Americans are currently infected with HPV. About 14 million people become newly infected each year. HPV is so common that most sexually-active men and women will get at least one type of HPV at some point in their lives. (CDC)

There are many variations of the HPV virus. Most women will never develop symptoms or if diagnosed will weather the infection without developing serious symptoms. Furthermore, the number of women who get genital warts is relatively tiny (@360,000, CDC), and cervical cancer even smaller (@11,000, CDC). These numbers change with time--they are growing everyday. Do you want your daughter to take that risk? Remember, it's her future you should be concerned about, when she's no longer living with you and you cannot protect her. 

My wish for your child is that she isn't caught by surprise. That she not become one of the few who potentially gets cervical cancer. That once she finally finds the love of her life, she can enjoy every moment and not be concerned about what may be. Even if it was only a scare, I encourage women to be screened for HPV, i.e. the multitudes who didn't have access to the vaccine.

We're living in an age where HPV can be prevented. Your daughter is lucky. May she continue to be so.

For more information on HPV, follow the link: http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm